A quick reference guide for RECLAIMING BIBLICAL WOMANHOOD based on just that; what the bible says about womanhood.
Why? Because I get tired and forgetful and confused and downright rebellious at times, and I need the admonition to press on and follow faithfully after Christ according to His definition of the path we’re on. The world is loud and flashy and tells us a whole lot of things, yet remains overtly silent, subtly contemptuous, or blatantly opposed to the things of God and biblical Christianity. Meanwhile, our own sinful nature welcomes the lack of accountability. It’s no wonder I’ve spent half of my life lost in the weeds, craving the humanistic living that marches to the beat of Satan’s world system and has nothing to do with that perfect, untarnished garden life in the very beginning–when everything that was made was good and we lived in the very presence of God.
A few years ago I made a statement that went something like this: “I wish the bible was more clear about what we should be doing as women. It doesn’t say that much about us.” Then it occurred to me that I should go home and test that statement, only to find out that I was dead wrong. It says an awful lot about us. It’s not all in one spot and it took some digging, but the bible weaves a clear, intricate picture of the unique calling of womanhood in both the Old and New Testaments.
So, I wrote it all down in a list. Yes, another list. But if there is one list that we can’t live without, it’s this one.
RECLAIMING BIBLICAL WOMANHOOD
WHAT THE BIBLE HAS TO SAY ABOUT BEING A WOMAN
First and foremost, whether we’re single, married, have children, or don’t have children, we as women are created “in the image of God”. (Ref. Genesis 1:27)
IF WE ARE MARRIED:
We are a gift and “a helper” to our husbands.
(Ref. Genesis 2:20)
YOUNGER WOMEN are Instructed to:
-Marry (see note below)
-Manage the house
-Give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully (Ref. 1 Timothy 5:14)
-Respect our husbands (Ref. Ephesians 5:33b)
-Love our husbands
-Love our children
-Be obedient to our own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed
(Ref. Titus 2:4-5)
-Be faithful in all things (Ref. 1 Timothy 3:11)
-NOTE: Not all women are called to marriage and singleness is a gift as well.
(Ref. 1 Corinthians 1:7-8)
An OLDER WOMAN is Praised if She:
-Is well reported for good works
-Has brought up children
-Has lodged strangers
-Has “washed the saints feet” (or other menial duties done with a humble servant’s heart).
-Has relieved the afflicted
-Has diligently followed every good work (Ref. 1 Timothy 5:9-10)
-Is reverent in behavior
-Is not a slanderer
-Is not given to much wine
-Is a teacher of good things
-Admonishes the young women to love their husbands, children… (see Titus 2:4-5 and Titus 2:3)
THE PROVERBS 31 WOMAN:
-Does him [her husband] good and not evil all the days of her life.
-Willingly works with her hands
-Brings food from afar (she puts effort into resourcing “the best” for her family)
-Rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household
-Girds herself with strength and strengthens her arms (she’s the opposite of lazy!)
-Her lamp does not go out at night/she perceives her merchandise is good (she’s industrious and works with her hands)
-Extends her hand to the poor (she is generous)
-Is not afraid of snow for her household for they are clothed in scarlet (she is prepared)
-Makes tapestry for herself, her clothing is fine linen and purple (she takes pride in her appearance)
-Makes linen garments and sells them (she’s industrious)
-Watches over the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
-Is “a woman who fears the Lord” and for that, “she shall be praised”.
(Ref. Proverbs 31:10-31)
IF WE HAVE CHILDREN, WE ARE TO:
-Lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. And you shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, that the days and the days of your children may be multiplied in the land… (Ref. Deuteronomy 11:18-21a)
-Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. (Ref. Proverbs 22:6)
-Does not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. (Ref. Proverbs 23:13)
IN A PUBLIC OR CHURCH SETTING, WE ARE TO:
-Adorn ourselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation…(Ref. 1 Timothy 2:9)
-Learn in silence with all submission (Ref. 1Timothy 2:11)
This definitely isn’t a complete list, but it’s a good start. My love, encouragement, and prayers are with all of us dear sisters who strive daily to walk worthy of the calling we’ve received in Christ Jesus, to remember His goodness and truth, to cling to Him even in the midst of our failures. But if you’re not sure where you fit into all of this, or if you fit in at all, it’s okay! We’ve all been there. See how He made me part of His family and set my feet on the right path. If there’s one thing I know, it’s that He wants a real, intimate, saving relationship with every last one of us. Especially you!